How to Improve Your Relationship with a Family Member
Does your family never get along? Are the siblings always fighting? Are they outrageous with their ear-piercing screams and yells to stop doing this, and to stop doing that?
It is a very important thing to have a good relationship with your family members and to have happiness in the home.
Below are some ways that you may find helpful to improve your relationship with one or more of your family members.
1: Spend more time with the Family Member.
For example you could bring the family member on a bicycle ride, pull him or her in the sled, read him or her a good book, or something along those lines. This could be a great help to you if you are seeking an improved relationship with your family member. But do remember whatever you do to spend more time with the family member, don’t be grumpy and unhappy about it.
How would it help the family member if you left him or her in the dust on a bicycle ride and kept yelling at the family member to “hurry up!” He or she would not be having a whole lot of fun.
So remember to be joyful and grateful when you are spending time with your family. It will make a difference you can count on.
2: Don’t make the Family Member Angry.
That is a good one to bear in mind when (and when not) improving a relationship with a family member. Do the complete opposite of making the family member angry. Be nice and do good to him or her, such as: make the family member’s bed, and/or help him or her learn a new skill and so on.
A way which will Help. Example A: Correct
Todd watched the clock and calculated the time it would take in order for his lunch to be done in the air fryer exactly at twelve noon. As soon as he started putting his food into the fryer Pat walked in. “Hey, I was gonna use the air fryer first!”
“Alright, alright. No need to get all shook up about it. You can go first.”
Example B: A bad way which will go against You.
Todd watched the clock and calculated the time it would take in order for his lunch to be done in the air fryer exactly at twelve noon. As soon as he started putting his food into the fryer Pat walked in. “Hey, I was gonna use the air fryer!”
“Well too bad! You don’t always have to go first!”
3: Help the Family Member with Schoolwork.
Help him or her with something that he or she is struggling with. A good thing to help with is schoolwork. Helping the family member with schoolwork is another great way to improve your relationship with the family member. Although be careful to avoid helping with reluctance. Help the family member with a want to do so. Don’t get impatient with them either. Instead of blowing your top, help the family member to understand the schoolwork better so that he or she will not get the problem wrong again.
When your brother/sister wants help. Example A: Correct.
“Hey Todd help me with this math equation will you?”
“Sure Pat, I can spare a few minutes to help you.”
Todd watches and sees the problem, then he chuckles a bit. “No, no Pat, you’ve got to expand the brackets first.”
“Oh yeah, I completely forgot. Thanks a lot Todd.”
“Sure thing. Glad to be of assistance.”
Example B: Incorrect.
“Hey Todd, help me with this math equation will you?”
Todd frowned. “Why? I have a life too.”
“Please Todd,” the brother pleaded in vain.
“I’m busy Pat, can’t you see? Now leave me be.”
Example C: Incorrect #2:
“Hey Todd, help me with this math equation will you?”
“Fine,” Todd grumbled. He watched his brother do the equation until he found the problem. “No, no, Pat!” Todd hollered at the top of his lungs. "Don't you know you have to expand the brackets first? Weren't you listening in class?”
4: Key Advantage: Don't be Lazy.
How much time do you waste throughout the day? Start putting that time to use, for laziness is worse than time used wisely. (Obviously).
What would it benefit you to lay on the couch watching TV or simply doing nothing other than lying there when you could be playing with your siblings?
The time wasted will add up against you, and by the end of one year you may have wasted a whole day, likely more.
Stop lying around and being lazy. Start spending more time with your family and improving your relationships with them. Next time when you slap the snooze button on your alarm clock remember: “A day wasted is a day squandered.”
Use your time wisely and you shall be better off than a weasel in a haystack. (Not that weasels in haystacks are bad-off).
Stop wasting time. Example A: Correct.
“Hey Todd. Stop lying around and wasting time. Can’t you come and play catch with me? Anyway, what's the point in doing nothing?”
“Alright Pat I guess you're right. I shouldn’t just lay here. I’ll come and play catch with you.”
Stop wasting time. Example B: Incorrect.
“Hey Todd. Stop lying around and wasting time. Can’t you come and play catch with me?
“Why Todd? I don't wanna.”
“Why not? You’re just being lazy. What’s the point in that?”
“Just leave me alone Pat. I’ve had a busy day.”
5: Conclusion
Following the ways written above you should find yourself in a better relationship with your family member. Remember when you are playing with the family member make sure you're having fun too. Recall in the section titled: Spend more time with the Family Member, where it states, ‘Don’t be grumpy and unhappy about it.’ So as your brother or sister is begging you to pull him or her in the sled don’t answer with a grumpy: “Fine. I guess I can pull you for a little bit.” Reply in a much nicer way such as: “Yeah I’ll pull you in the sled.”
Or when you're just being a bump on a log, respond: “Sure thing. What else do I have to do anyway?”
Thank you for reading this week's post! Let me know if you have anything else you want me to write about or any questions you want me to answer!
Until next time,
The Writer
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